It’s okay if Christmas feels hard this year

The festive season is in full swing, but it's not always the picture-perfect Christmas we see online. For survivors of abuse, Christmas can be a very difficult time.

Christmas can bring back painful memories that feel far removed from the cheerful families in festive songs, ads, and movies. It can be tough to scroll through Instagram and see, what feels like, everyone else enjoying the festivities with their loved ones. While there’s pressure to embrace the “most wonderful time of the year,” it’s okay to focus on simply getting through it.

There’s often an expectation to engage with people you have spent the rest of the year keeping your distance from. You’re allowed to say no to people, whether it’s a family gathering, work Christmas party or any other event. You have the right to change your mind and make choices that prioritise your well-being. You are in control of your Christmas.

If you’re struggling this December, Beacon House has some excellent winter resources to help you weather the Christmas storm. Their therapists design them to support regulation, connection and rest. They cover self-reflection exercises, how to manage sensory overload and a few ideas for some new Christmas traditions. You can download them for free here and share them with anyone else who may need a little extra support right now.

You could also reach out to supportive friends, family, or neighbours and plan something that brings you comfort - even if it’s just a cuppa. You’re also welcome to join us for a New Year's Eve dip in Whitehaven and meet some people who truly understand what you’re going through.  Please email julieanne@safetynetuk.org if you’re interested.

It’s okay if you don’t have the perfect Christmas. Prioritise your well-being, and try to do something that makes you feel good.